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Re:High-Paying Trade Jobs Sit Empty, While High School Grads... by godelski on Thursday April 26, 2018 @04:53PM (#16935650)
> January 2017 ish a Prof offered me several research projects, after not responding to him for two weeks I am now hiding from him for the rest of my life.

Sounds like you might want to message them. Small progress is still progress. Some days you make leaps and bounds, but most days we barely make a step. And that is okay.

> I am absolutely aware that I am on paper qualified for all sorts of shit.

>> For 30k plus benefits I'd strangle puppies.

Anxiety and writing an email sounds better than strangling puppies for a (low wage) living.

> That doesn't change the reality that I am emotionally incapable of doing anything with it.

Get a therapist.

> at some point you just stop believing that something else is possible. Then what?

GET A THERAPIST

Seriously, if you are at the point where emailing someone is causing you so much anxiety that you are literally sabotaging yourself to work jobs that you are way over qualified for (and thus make you clearly miserable), you need to see someone professional. Because you said it yourself:

> I am qualified for all sorts of shit.

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Re:High-Paying Trade Jobs Sit Empty, While High School Grads... by Avshalom on Thursday April 26, 2018 @05:14PM (#16935859)
a) I'm not in a place where even if I emailed them and they did understand I would be any more likely to actually follow through the second they stopped looking over my shoulder.

b) 30 grand and benefits in Albuquerque isn't a low wage it's god damned pinkies out upper class.

c) I am not over qualified to be a stock boy (though I am damned good at it) I am orthogonally qualified for other jobs.

d) yeah I am aware that a therapist would help but that self sabatoge came after 6 months of counseling and antidepressants... More effective therapy is either non existent or out of my price range.

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Re:High-Paying Trade Jobs Sit Empty, While High School Grads... by astrange on Friday April 27, 2018 @07:36AM (#16939949)
Being active and yet totally incapable of doing anything that makes you feel bad might be depression but actually sounds like an ADHD symptom people don't talk about.

https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-ho...

Unfortunately I've never heard about therapy for this - there's just a different medication than antidepressants - but maybe reading that would help you.

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