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Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by throwaway613834 on Friday February 16, 2018 @01:56AM (#16390452)
Honest question: What's the logic behind being so utterly rude from the first moment to someone you find attractive? Is it supposed to attract them back somehow?
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by jamra on Friday February 16, 2018 @02:28AM (#16390595)
I don't have an answer based on any kind of scientific information, but I have a theory about this. I think that young boys who are learning how to behave towards women test their boundaries. Since they are anonymous, they go way too far into aggression. So I think the combination of being at the bottom of the food chain in terms of being a mate combines with their anonymity and their lack of actual social skills in behaving towards women.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by mentos on Friday February 16, 2018 @08:45AM (#16392242)
Ha maybe the response to this type of abuse is to link the offender to research like that
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by dazc on Friday February 16, 2018 @02:04AM (#16390485)
Just guessing based on behaviours I have witnessed amongst school friends and work colleagues.

If you're not an attractive person yourself there are women and girls who are out of your reach. This breeds resentment at an early age, and a weapon of choice, for some, is derogatory language.

Why, because what else can you do to hurt someone so easily without fear of repercussion?

The problem is not just confined to misogynists btw. If you're a man and have an attractive wife or girlfriend the insulting behaviour still goes on, but usually behind your back - these people are generally cowards after all.

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by guy98238710 on Friday February 16, 2018 @02:52AM (#16390682)
Actually, people are colder and more abusive towards those less good-looking. The case described in the article is not due to beauty. It's because people think it's a bot or at least a fake photo. That's what irritates them.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by throwaway613834 on Friday February 16, 2018 @02:55AM (#16390694)
Ahh, yes, that would explain it. I guess the next step here would be to put a note that says this is a human and see how people respond!
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by bloak on Friday February 16, 2018 @04:54AM (#16391179)
Yes! They should definitely try that experiment!

When reading the article my first questions were: do these people think there is a real human at the other end, and, if so, do they think the photo is of that human? It's probably impossible to answer that question directly, but putting up a notice similar to "you are talking to a real person, not a bot" and seeing how that affects the behaviour would give some indication, perhaps.

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by salvar on Friday February 16, 2018 @05:05AM (#16391238)
Did you speak to the people in question or are you just speculating on the reason for their behaviour?
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by throwaway613834 on Friday February 16, 2018 @05:27PM (#16397058)
I think it's obvious that everyone here is speculating, there's no benefit to trying to call one of them out.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by AnsisMalins on Friday February 16, 2018 @03:02AM (#16390718)
But then why would you harass a bot?
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by Slansitartop on Friday February 16, 2018 @11:38AM (#16393536)
Because it's an emotionless inanimate thing, so it's a safe place to play around with saying things you otherwise never could?
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by akkat on Friday February 16, 2018 @07:48AM (#16391943)
Maybe for the same reason that I drown or starve my Sims characters
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by guy98238710 on Friday February 16, 2018 @03:32AM (#16390810)
Because it's safer than harassing a human. Perfectly reasonable people will be abusive to a bot, because they assume the bot cannot feel it.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by guitarbill on Friday February 16, 2018 @02:41AM (#16390645)
Sour grapes. If you know you can't have or get something, pretend you never wanted it. Thus your ego is preserved.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by nukeop on Friday February 16, 2018 @04:47AM (#16391146)
I don't think anybody thinks in these terms about an internet chatbot.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by InclinedPlane on Friday February 16, 2018 @02:30AM (#16390605)
Objectification. Performative masculinity.