That year and a half or so was the easiest we have ever had. People take for granted how much time laundry absorbs when you have two people working and limited free time.
How does outsourcing help with a crying baby at 2am? How does outsourcing help with the mental burden of worrying about whether the kids have their shots and annual dentist visits and don't forget that you have to go shopping because they outgrew their shoes?
And if you're raising two kids on a $35k nursing salary and the $15k your husband earns at the minimum wage job that's all that's available to him, how are you going to afford any of that anyway?
Outsource where you can. Where you can't, share the responsibility.
All of this is subject to whether or not you can afford it. I made my assumption based on two breadwinners.
In my mind $15k is a not a breadwinner salary. I had assumed since you referred to yourself as a modern women who makes good money you'd be at least making $70k-$100k.
Which is why I'm in favor of outsourcing (i.e. cleaning, take-out, blue apron). My friends (she's a doctor and he's a product manager) say getting a cleaner is the best thing they could have done for their relationship