Being a rapist is illegal, while identifying as a man is not.

I would think a better analogy is that a rape support group would not allow male victims as most rapists are men.

_Raping_ is illegal. Being a registered sex offender means you might have served jail time and then released. Whether a rapist feels remorse or whether they've received fair punishment under the law is completely beside the point. Being homeless is certainly not illegal and the thing about condos is still true.

Just wait until the real fun starts - it will soon become apparent that among a group that identifies as "women" there are those who would command the vast majority of the available resources, just like it happens among the group that identifies as "men" at which point that group would also need to be sliced and diced into subgroups with specific rules applied towards say... cis-women vs. non-cis-women or cis-women-that-look-like-karlie-kloss (or Iman)

Leap and similar communities are not essentialist, they are safe spaces for those people who share the experience of existing as a woman in the tech industry. It is a false equivalency to conflate Leap with terf essentialism. Additionally, why the quotes around men and women? Is this an attempt to be subtly transphobic?

Doesn't seem all that subtle to me