Re:Why Am I So Lazy?
by dominotw on Sunday January 07, 2018 @09:04AM
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Wouldn't positive comments imprison also? You have to live up to the image that has been created. I know lots of Indian kids are drepressed and driven to suicide. My high school roommate commited suicide due to this.
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Re:Why Am I So Lazy?
by somethingsimple on Sunday January 07, 2018 @12:24PM
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Yes. Overly positive comments can have a negative effect as well, if not accompanied by the reassurance that it's ok not to be good at everything/screw up sometimes.
Also, a positive comment for consolation purposes ("but you're so good at it!" when they actually aren't) is dishonest and kids can tell (I know I could at least, and I know my daughter can).
There's a really good book that talks about this (among other things) called How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk [1].
[1] https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005GG0MXI/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?...