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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by throwaway413 on Sunday November 26, 2017 @10:35AM (#15781296)
I understand and get where you’re coming from. I appreciate it. But trust me when I say I have not ignored this hole at all. She is completely unaware of it. I’ve been trying to help her mend it subconsciously for years. Years. I can’t even get started on the ways how. But again, I get where you’re coming from. It’s just not like that.

Trust me. If she was just bills to me - I would have stopped paying a long time ago. We shared a deep deep connection. Why do you think I got married so young?

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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by sillysaurus3 on Sunday November 26, 2017 @10:43AM (#15781346)
Ah, yeah. I was reading a bit far into it.

Do you think she'd be willing to go to couple's therapy? It's very expensive but it can be worth it.

If you're ever looking for someone to just listen, let me know.

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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by throwaway413 on Sunday November 26, 2017 @10:51AM (#15781392)
Thank you, I appreciate your ears.

I have been trying to get her into couples counseling or even just individual counseling for over a year. She just never makes it happen. I started counseling individually 2 months ago. She came to 1 session, I booked her a follow up, but she cancelled it. She has theoretically agreed to couple counseling in the past, but now couldn’t be bothered.

She thinks her IG friends are her counselors, starting the echo chamber cycle.

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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by late2part on Sunday November 26, 2017 @12:34PM (#15781962)
When you read this article, what do you think?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency

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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by throwaway413 on Sunday November 26, 2017 @12:54PM (#15782077)
Oh yeah. I think I have continued to let her act this way because being with her, being married, our family, has all been such a huge part of my identity...but that's not a bad thing to me. I guess then it must be my responsibility if I actually care about her to leave her, so she can overcome her own stuff. Which is where I'm currently at...it just fucking sucks.
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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by late2part on Sunday November 26, 2017 @01:16PM (#15782185)
It does just fucking suck. And I’m very sorry that you have to go through this. The hardest part of love and relationships being vulnerable and knowing that sometimes it doesn’t work out. You guys have a kid together, and that’s more important than anything. Take care of your kid and take care of yourself. She’s chosen not to take care of you.
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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by sillysaurus3 on Monday November 27, 2017 @10:55AM (#15788258)
How're you doing today? Do you want anyone to talk to?
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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by throwaway413 on Monday November 27, 2017 @04:54PM (#15791860)
I'm doing pretty well actually today, thanks for asking - it really means a lot.

I made a few different calls this morning and setup an appointment with a lawyer later this week to sit down and get everything better sorted.

I started talking to a couple of my friends more about it and they have been surprisingly supportive of me, calling me, etc. Not feeling as alone as when I wake up at 3am and realize I'm all alone, which I'm not used to, but at least I know I'm sadly not alone in that boat and can relate to others.

Thanks again for reaching out. I'll shoot you an email.

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Re:Teenagers are growing more anxious and depressed by sillysaurus3 on Tuesday November 28, 2017 @02:49PM (#15800746)
Please feel free to email me. Sometimes I'm up at 3am anyway, and I can relate to the whole "waking up feeling alone" experience.

Just try to remember, it's temporary.

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