Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too

Re:Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too by erikbye on Monday November 13, 2017 @10:38PM (#15692423)

A woman at work constantly speaks in tones of sexual innuendo, when she comes over to someone asking for help or whatever, she leans over you and places her hand on your shoulder or thigh. As a man in today’s climate the double standard is painfully obvious. Follow her example and you’d be on your ass fast.

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Re:Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too by colanderman on Monday November 13, 2017 @10:44PM (#15692459)

What double standard? If a female co-worker did that to me I'd bring it up with HR.

And – I'm making the assumption that you are probably in tech and therefore probably in a male-dominated workplace – unlike a woman in your situation, you can almost certainly call out the individual in question with zero fear of consequences to your career. Without knowing specifics, my prejudice is that you are in no position to complain. (My assumptions could be wrong.)

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Re:Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too by erikbye on Monday November 13, 2017 @10:48PM (#15692471)

The double standard is that she still has her job but a man wouldn’t.

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Re:Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too by colanderman on Monday November 13, 2017 @10:52PM (#15692492)

Bullshit. Tens of thousands of men who sexually harass women get away scot-free day in day out.

The men you mention lost their jobs because the women they harassed spoke out (and almost always, they did so under fear of reprisal). It didn't just "happen". Have you spoken to HR or your boss?

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Re:Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too by _MK_ on Monday November 13, 2017 @11:00PM (#15692536)

Guess whose job it is to bring it with HR and make sure they understand the double standard you see? You and everyone else you can round up that agrees with you. Make it happen like women have always had to do.

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Re:Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too by Kluny on Monday November 13, 2017 @11:05PM (#15692560)

Bring it up with HR. See what happens.

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Re:Men at Work Wonder If They Overstepped with Women, Too by comstock on Monday November 13, 2017 @10:53PM (#15692504)

Yes, it happens. In my view what your describing is also unacceptable behavior. In the past I would have overlooked it, at this point I wouldn’t accept it and I’d ask her to stop and mention it to her manager/ my manager (or HR).

I have no doubt that women suffer from harassment more in the workplace. But this behavior is also not ok.

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