A bit out of left field, but you might enjoy the book Every Man's Battle, written from a conservative Christian perspective, about exactly this problem. (The Christian man's problem with this inclination is that Jesus said, more or less, that making "eyes" at a woman is as sinful as actually committing adultery with her.)

As a not-particularly-conservative Christian, I kind of hated the book. Among other things it's got a sort of warped view of the problems with non-consensual interactions / objectifying women (there's one particular scene where there's a youth group leader and a member who's literally too young to consent, and the book puts more emphasis on the youth group leader being unfaithful to his wife than on him statutorily raping the kid). I also got the distinct feeling that I have this problem far less than any of the people in this book. But a number of friends have told me that they got a lot out of the book, so, maybe it'll resonate with you.