It's a stock photo, you're reading into it too much. I doubt the guy went on a date and then asked the gal to strike a pose: "I'm writing an article about how I'm dating 150 girls, can you please pose for a photograph?"

He did online dating, meaning all the girls had already published their photos in the internet before he met them. Just right click and "Save as" would do the trick, if he really wanted to include real photos in the article :)

But yes, I also think that's a stock photo.

Seems like a stock photo to me

I did not read the whole post yet but it could be a picture of his fiance. I could not quickly find the source of the image through google image search [0]. What are the odds?

[0] http://www.google.com/search?q=https%3A%2F%2Fcdn-images-1.me...

Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized.

If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else before a divorce. But the alternative is to be a slave to your partner's whims, if the marriage is sufficiently toxic and unsalvageable.

Yes, it is still unethical.

> Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else before a divorce.

Are you saying that you should continue to live off of the spouse's salary while shopping on the side?

It's easy to turn this question around: Are you saying that you should live your life beholden to someone else just because they're supporting you financially? Isn't that servitude?

You're beholden because you're married, not because you're a slave. You have a choice of divorce, nobody is stopping you from leaving, being financially dependent that doesn't justify cheating on your spouse.

Beholden to someone? Servitude?

I'm simply saying that it's unethical to live off of someone else's salary, in marriage, while trying to find a replacement (it's called an affair).

Ten years is a long time, and people change significantly. Think drug abuse. If your SO is strung out all the time, and you have no ability to support yourself, what would you do?

Unfortunately this isn't a corner case. It's a sad but common story.

I'm not judging, I get every situation is different. It sounds like you're referring to a specific incident, 10 year+ relationship, things change, spouse is a drug user.

Sounds awful. My opinion is still that one should leave the relationship ASAP, regardless of how difficult it is financially. Support groups, family, part time work, driving uber, whatever it takes. I think it's unethical to stay in a relationship for financial security while trying to find a replacement.

Even if there was emotional or physical abuse my answer would be the same. Exit the relationship, find support, don't have an affair.

Realistically, where would you suggest finding support to get you out of this situation?

(I'm genuinely hopeful for an answer.)

* Friends / Family

* Divorce support groups

* Church (you don't really have to believe)

I imagine it's something I can't truly understand from the outside.

Probably an oversimplified article for a man/woman but it has some good points: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alison-patton/what-smart-women...

> . If your SO is strung out all the time, and you have no ability to support yourself, what would you do?

You should work out your issues, remove the things in your life that are causing you harm. (That relationship) Then date later. Moving from one bad relationship to another is a huge redflag.

Even in that case, why wear the ring in the picture? Edit: On second look, that picture looks to be a stock photo, not one of the dates the author went on.

I think this is probably a stock photo just used to add a photo to the article.

Is nobody wearing rings just for fun?

I've certainly met people who wear rings specifically to suggest they're unavailable, or at least cut down on the number of propositions.

Sure, if the relationship has reached that point, she probably wouldn't be wearing a ring. I'm just curious what everyone thinks.

If there's not trickery involved then they wouldn't be wearing a ring, surely?

Yes it is unethical, but she is unethical more.

Pragmatically, if she dates you while wearing that ring, chances are she will date another dude while wearing your ring.

If you need to stay on toxic relationship because of money, it is hard to leave, but not because you did not dated on the side. It is because you need to arrange living and job (or shelter). People in toxic relationships tend to be emotionally drained.

Regardless of the ethics, it's probably just not going to work out...