If you're frustrated by the pace of the game, then I think you're not thinking deep enough.

Ha! Probably, honestly. I've never been too great at thinking way ahead.

It's something that takes tons and tons of practice. The more positions and tactics and openings you burn into your long term memory the less you need to keep in short term memory.

The best players in the world have put so many thousands of hours into the game that they can beat casual players trivially without thinking more than one move ahead. They owe this ability to having vast knowledge of fundamentals and theoretical lines in all the most common positions. This is how they are able to win simultaneous exhibitions against a large number of casual players.

it's not always about thinking many moves ahead with chess - often it's a case of looking for interesting patterns on the board that you can turn into an advantageous situation. Did the other player king-side castle? Look for ways to pick away at their pawns. King and queen/rook within 2 knight moves of each other? Could be an opportunity for a fork. You pick up more of these patterns over time, and you can start to scan for chains of these types of attack/defense.

This is so true

That's why you play 5 minute blitzes!! :)

I play 30 minutes games and still don't have enough time to think my moves though. It's amazing for me how people can play blitz or bullet games

Blitz is frowned upon at the upper levels by a lot of players for that reason. However, some such as #1 rated of all time "Magnus Carlsen", play a bit of blitz on the side.

Fishing in general but fly-fishing specifically is this for me. A midday walk to somewhere with a view I also find to be helpful for rebooting the brain.