People are giving you this information by flagging your posts, by downvoting your posts, and by replying to your posts. One of the people replying to your posts is a mod.
You can ignore those people, but that tends to mean your account will end up banned.
> Sure, I wasn't sugar coating.
This is a mistake people often make. You're not being asked to sugar coat anything. You're being asked to stop being rude and to reign in the ranting.
You haven't made it clear that you sincerely want to know. It takes a lot of time and energy to respond to a question like that—I'd guess a couple orders of magnitude more than it costs to post the question.
The risk/reward of giving you a sincere answer is very different if your goal is to become a good HN contributor vs. merely continue an argument which interests no one. If you want people to answer, you need to show that it won't be a waste of their investment to do so.
That seems obviously inaccurate in any moderated forum. Or we'd all be published New Yorker writers.