> tell me why BBQs are generally not open to anyone
Hence why I specified "local community", not "someone's friend's backyard".
In any case, you're missing the point of the analogy, and extend any analogy and it will fall apart. You're missing the human aspect of FOSS, instead interpreting it as a literal legal case.
And yes, there is expectation in FOSS that others will pitch in and help when your project is extremely popular. ESR, coiner of the 'open source' term we're talking about, explicitly promoted it with the term 'enough eyeballs make all bugs shallow'. How is that not seen as an expectation of kicking back at least some effort?
ESRs quote praises the OS virtue of allowing source code to be read, it doesn't imply an obligation on all users of FOSS, legal, moral, or otherwise.
This poor characterisation of me has nothing to do with the topic, and is just abuse.
There is an expectation at a BBQ, though this differs culturally. There is not such an expectation for FOSS projects, unless explicitlty stated somewhere.
If you want to compare the two; tell me why BBQs are generally not open to anyone, whereas there are few restrictions on FOSS contributors? What are the consumables in a BBQ (food) versus a FOSS project (developer time), and who contributes these in each case?