If I'm reading that page right myself, then if you travel 1000 miles in a car there's ~4.3 times as much risk of death than if you travelled in a plane instead.
So if a plane travels at least 4.3 times as FAST as a car on average, then your risk over time in a plane could be higher.
I think your post makes a good point in general. Way too often, people compare statistics that don't consider major factors like how often people drive vs. fly.
If your driving experience is "hours moving at 5mph", and your flying is "lots of shaking", easy to get scared of one.
As someone who has developed a fear of flying (I still fly because I'm not taking a boat but...), one small thing that scares me is looking at plane wings in flight.
A lot of bending, and a lot of parts that look old. On one flight I could see a piece of rubber stuck on the rudder , that seemed to slowly get more worn out as the rudder moved up and down.
I'm sure it was by design, but at the time, I was legitimately scared.
EDIT: it was a flap, not a rudder
The shake and wobble in wings is by design. If they didn't flex they'd shatter.
Are there stats for driver-deaths-per-time-spent-driving? It'd also be interesting if it could be broken down to driver-deaths that 100% clearly weren't the driver's fault. I wonder how that compares to deaths-per-time-flying (via a major carrier). Or probability of death.
Best I could find is the micromort wikipedia page [1] - apparently to spend one micromort, you can drive 230 miles, fly 1000 miles, or train 6000 miles. Looked at that way, you're burning micromorts at a faster hourly rate on the plane, so according to that it's riskier if you squint your eyes just so.
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Micromort