Don’t let your anger persist

Re:Don’t let your anger persist by CuriouslyC on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @12:09AM (#12732000)

Anger is our emotional mechanism to tap into strength and endurance reserves, while simultaneously suppressing pain. It is adaptive when you're fighting for the life of yourself or a loved one. It causes tunnel-vision, and it is not really a healthy state in general though, so it is definitely maladaptive if you aren't about to engage in some sort of physical conflict. You can recognize something is wrong, and be motivated to do something about it without getting angry, and generally things turn out better if you can avoid anger.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by namaemuta on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @03:58AM (#12732808)

I totally agree with you except for the part of avoiding angry. It shouldn't be avoided but redirected towards something more useful. For example it's a great fuel for lifting weights at the gym.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by saiya-jin on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @05:16AM (#12733023)

I would be cautious about that, there are even warnings about this approach around the web. Reason - if pissed off, you might push yourself a bit too much and risk of injury is much, much greater since your mind wants to fly (or see those barbells fly sky high), but your body is exactly same as usual, with it's weak spots.

if you end up injured while trying to get some steam off, now that would piss and disappoint many.

so gym yes, but I would put a bit lower weights, or go for some cardio

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by r_smart on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @02:43PM (#12737422)

Most strength training programs prescribe how much weight you're going to lift on any given day. I can tell you how much I'm going to lift today, and I can tell you how much I'm going to lift on Friday. In that context the anger makes it easier to succeed, but doesn't pose much, if any threat. I'm not going to put extra weight on the bar, beyond what I was scheduled to attempt.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by namaemuta on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @06:34AM (#12733296)

Thanks for the remark, that's totally true.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by zamalek on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @05:24AM (#12733050)

Right, acknowledge the anger and move past it. It's like stress-related issues, your mind/body is telling you that there is a problem that needs to be resolved.

If something repeatedly causes anger or stress it might be a good idea to re-evaluate whether you need that thing in your life. Stuck in a 35-minute queue? It might be time to take your business elsewhere. Angry and motivated often go hand-in-hand.

Fix the problem, don't dwell on the emotion.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by truth_sentinell on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @08:00AM (#12733599)

Well yeah but you don't carry around a dumbell, do you? Anger is a waste of energy and very dangerous in most of the cases. It should be avoided at all costs unless you're going into a fight and don't have any other choice.

I wholeheartedly disagree with the OP of this line of commentary. Saying anger is good and one should embrace it is a really bad suggestion.

Anger makes you blind, it fogs your rational thinking and makes you do things you'll probably regret afterwards.

So, avoid it and think rationally.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by namaemuta on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @08:54AM (#12733887)

IIRC, there's a Terry Pratchett's quote that says something like this: "(...)you should be afraid of that cashier at the supermarket that quietly is being yelled all the time until one day he appears with a shotgun".

The worst thing you can do is avoiding anger because sooner or later you'll explode. Learn to handle it or burn all that excess of energy on something useful but never avoid it.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by ptero on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @08:18AM (#12733684)

There is a big difference IMO between avoiding anger and suppressing it, especially for a long time. If one can avoid anger, great; no need to get artificially angry (if one knows he will likely be on hold for 45 minutes, he can call during a less busy time or pick a service that supports callbacks).

Suppressing anger for a while (by self-distraction, leading yourself to see the other side of the coin, whatever) might be worse than stepping out for 30 seconds and letting go (e.g., by laying waste to a plastic cup). My 2c.

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Re:Don’t let your anger persist by Cpoll on Tuesday October 18, 2016 @11:57AM (#12735699)

There's a notion that venting your anger only rewards it and conditions you to further anger (and outbursts).

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