Calling someone a "MILF" is tantamount to saying "I'd like to fuck you." It has all of the same meaning: "You're a human (mother) I'd like to fuck." It's disingenuous to call this a compliment.

Dudes on this thread are being histrionic, like, if I can't call a woman a MILF at work, what's next, the PC gestapo are going to prevent me from making eye contact with women.

I can't stress this enough: if not being able to call a woman a MILF in your day to day life is an imposition, you really need to reevaluate how you talk to (and think about) women. I'll skip the moral appeal and go straight to self interest: on average, women just don't like that shit. You catch more flies with honey than you do unwelcome, overly sexually aggressive comments.

Continuing sexual advances in a work context after being explicitly rebuffed is textbook harassment. This is, perhaps, nearly the most minor incident possible of that basic pattern, but it also pretty clearly fits it.

Did that happen?

Find the pattern in the following list of numbers:

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You seem to be conflating sexual harassment, which is a work-related tort, with sexual assault and rape, which are very different characters of things.

Yes, sexual harassment involves many things which fall far short of sexual assault. And, sure, maybe those are first world problems -- if you want to run a successful business in the first world, then you shouldn't be surprised by the need to address first world problems.

And, sure, maybe some women like playing hard to get. The existence of those women does not create license to continue to pursue any woman who has turned you in the workplace. Nor does it remove the legal obligation of the employer to address such unwanted pursuit. What you do when pursuing women who are not your coworkers outside of your work environment, so long as it comports with the less restrictive laws applicable in such environments, is your own business.

I wonder how your grandmother would feel about you bringing her into this discussion.

Also just because there are worse things than verbal sexual harassment doesn't mean it should be ignored.

"since no one will want to be the first one to make a move."

It's a work environment, not a bar. No one should normally need to make a "first move" in this context. Sure, work romances do sometimes happen, but I don't think our population is in any danger if they do not.

"work romances do sometimes happen"

A quick google suggests that 38% of people have dated a co-worker.

That ignores the fact that you've hired human employees. Maybe chemical castration should be a part of the onboarding process these days?

Please stop.

Edit: Actually we've banned this account for trolling.

Contrary to other animals humans are capable of keeping their instincts in check. In fact one could argue that this ability is what elevates humans above other primates. So being a human with a sex drive is no excuse for calling others MILF.

>albeit crudely

There you have it. I'd bet dollar to doughnuts that if this person had simply "expressed interest," I don't think there would have been an issue. But if a total stranger says they only want to "hang out" as friends, and your reaction is to call them a MILF and try to share some creepy "secret" with them, that's clearly an unwanted interaction.

Yes, crudely remarking on a coworker's appearance then asking to "tell them a secret" (which is obviously going to be sexual in nature) is sexual harassment.

If you can't see why, I think quite a few people are very happy you don't have plans for management.