Re:Tantrums as Status Symbols (2005)
by Animats on Monday April 04, 2016 @07:49PM
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There are ways to deal with that. "Yeah, whatever" can help. Pull out your phone and take a video. Divert your attention, and the attention of others, to something other than the person having the tantrum. This can be useful in negotiations.
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An NLP Guru would advise Matching and Mirroring instead. Get yourself into the same agitated emotional state matching the tantrum thrower. This makes him feel understood. Then calm down and lead him to rationality again.
(I never used that successfully)
Another one is saying, "When you are ready to calm down and act like an adult, we can discuss this."
Re:Tantrums as Status Symbols (2005)
by intopieces on Monday April 04, 2016 @10:18PM
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I'm not sure being patronizing or sarcastic is particularly productive for situations where the person you are speaking to is of a higher status than you. This strikes me as something one wishes one could say, but doesn't dare.
This strikes me as something one wishes one could say, but doesn't dare.
I've said it. When someone acts like a child, it's not patronizing to call them out: it's treating them with respect.
Re:Tantrums as Status Symbols (2005)
by justratsinacoat on Tuesday April 05, 2016 @12:47AM
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> When someone acts like a child, it's not patronizing to call them out: it's treating them with respect
While this is actually correct, someone wise enough to intuitively grasp this probably isn't going to be throwing a tantrum in the first place.
Sometimes all you need to do is point it out.
"I understand you are very stressed and frightened but we can deal with this if we put our minds to it"
Anger comes from fear.