bip99 - https://github.com/bitcoin/bips/blob/master/bip-0099.mediawi...
https://www.reddit.com/r/bitcoinxt/comments/3t21dh/dangerous...
https://www.reddit.com/r/Bitcoin/comments/3griiv/on_consensu...
> scare people away from doing what's necessary
Most block size hard-forks can be deployed as a soft-fork. "It's necessary" is highly contentious and you have failed to cite any of the arguments you disagree with- you're wasting everyone's time.
An accidental hard-fork is a completely different animal from an intentional contentious hard-fork where half of the network goes one way and the other half the other way for the foreseeable future.
Could a cryptocurrency not be controlled by those who can afford to spend the most in CPU power (like governments)?
Could consensus occur by human power?
The idea that hard forks are dangerous or irresponsible is a belief that is not well supported. However it's a rather good piece of Bitcoin Core propaganda to scare people away from doing what's necessary.