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edit: Editing as we speak, hit submit too soon.

I meant, the actual code. Right now, I'm modifying the source directly because nobody is on the site. And I just refresh the page to see the changes.

I'm guessing I should put a copy of my code somewhere else , test there, and then upload the changes when I'm donE?

I know this sounds silly, but once people are on my site, how can I modify it without disrupting the service? (it's all php/js/html)

Looks cool. Can't figure out how to use it though...

It's a super niche market, nobody I've met is into it. The people that _were_ into it told me to make sales and contact them again.

I'll give it a shot.

The really painful part comes from wanting to do so much while being paralyzed. People have told me to get myself checked out, but I was in therapy for a while and it turns out I'm perfectly healthy - just anxious, and mildly neurotic.

Yes I do. I've tried sitting down to work but never get past formatting my code.

My main worry is that nobody else will want my software, and even if they did I wouldn't know how to price it, market it, and sell it. All I really know is to code, even if it just barely passes programming convention and security checks.

I envision so much for what I'm doing, but I have no idea how to get there.

I'm not sure what this all boils down to. What does this mean for how I interact in public?

If I still decide to talk to the beautiful women I encounter, that means I'm placing importance on sex, right? Because otherwise, I'd be staring at my work and not really giving a hoot. Or are we saying there's a fine line between pursuing women and obsessing over the idea of love and sex as a determinant factor of one's self-esteem?

lol indeed my friend.

I phrased everything wrong. I don't want to "hack" anything important in life. On the contrary, I want to set things properly in my life. I want sustainable growth. So pardon me for using the term. It wasn't fitting.

I've met people who've backwards rationalized not having success with women, and the way you can tell that I'm low on self-confidence, I can tell they're full of shit. But I don't think you are, I think you have a point, as do most people posting comments here.Also, because I have seen this "figure" of what a life without this burning desire for sexual validation is like, and it seems legitimately healthy. I've heard of the "cherry on top" expression, and it seems so ideal for love and sex to be the extra bonus that we all welcome and cherish. Unfortunately, I see myself going full-circle with this philosophy and winding up anxious and unhappy. How do I NOT place importance on sex and love? It's essentially what I think of when I wake up, everytime I see a beautiful woman, and at night as I fall asleep. I'm not a romantic, but the idea of it all is just so awesome.

edit: i think i'm getting it.

How can you tell I lack confidence? Everytime I think I'm being stoic in my writing, my lack of self esteem somehow shines through.

Seems like a bold move. I feel like if I tried doing that, I'd get requests for refunds and a lot of bad press. But I guess your point is that at least I'd have to learn why, and then fix that for my next trial.

Are you saying I let them use it for free, iron stuff out, and then ask them to pay to continue using the service?

I expect issues. The service has a pretty long, horizontal and vertical series of steps to complete. I don't know if I can make them pay what I expect and have them experience something awful.

1) Selling to freelancers and small to mid companies. Buying process? I'm trying to break into a really traditional marketplace. They haven't used new "stuff" in years. They also won't be seeking solutions to the problem I solve. Every last person I interviewed reacted in a "shit, I do waste time doing this. But what option do I have?"

2) I'm selling to designers. They're looking to spend less time on a boring but needed task in their workflow. How can I be seen by them? You mean to say, in an online sense?

3) I grew my mailing list with paid questionnaires (real life- put an ad in an online magazine) , cold calls, referalls, friends.