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Even discounting annual variance, the UK economy has been performing very poorly since, at least, 2010.

> The UK economy is in the doldrums. The IMF has forecast it will be the worst-performing large advanced economy this year. But the problems stretch back much further.

> Average annual growth rates have more than halved since the global financial crisis of 2007-08. The UK economy is no bigger now than it was on the eve of the coronavirus pandemic at the end of 2019 and the Bank of England does not expect to recover that ground until 2026 at the earliest.

https://www.ft.com/content/dd195cda-ca12-48a6-9e8b-65a36e4e7...

In general European countries have bans on smoking in public places much stricter than the US.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_smoking_bans#Smoking_b...

In my experience, trying to push away these feelings of shame, jealousy and inadequacy won’t help at all. By sheer will, or by using “mental hacks” from pop psychology you might be able to push them out of consciousness for a while, but that won’t last for long. Or worse, it will last and the feelings will stay out of consciousness, even though, since their root cause hasn’t been solved, they don’t really disappear. They just become unconscious and part of what Jung called The Shadow: the aspects of ourselves that we can’t accept and we push into unconsciousness. From the unconscious they act up and make us behave in irrational ways without being able to understand what’s happening.

Instead, try to approach these feelings with an attitude of compassionate curiosity.

First, notice that there’s nothing wrong about having these feelings. It’d be wrong if you were mean to your friends because of their success. But you can have these feelings and not be mean to them. The feelings are not the problem.

Second, understand that there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re having these feelings for a reason. There's a casual chain of events that's making you feel this way. So, why are they happening?

The obvious -and wrong- answer is because your friends have money and you don’t. But surely there are plenty of people in the world that have less money than you, and still manage to be reasonably happy. And even your rich friends could compare themselves with even richer people and feel inadequate about how small their swimming pool or their yacht is. Are they feeling this way?

You can ask other more meaningful questions: why do you feel the need to compare yourself with your friends? Why do you feel that you need a ton of money to validate you and make you happy?

These are not easy questions to answer. They often touch deep wounds -otherwise we wouldn’t be so keen to avoid them. But approaching them with curiosity and compassion is the only way to find the root causes of what’s making you so miserable.

"The dose makes the poison". Paracelsus already said it in the XVI century.

I'm a Spanish person, living abroad and with a penchant for cooking, and I was too very gratefully surprised by Kenji's Spanish tortilla video. Also by his other Spanish recipes such as Gazpacho[1] or Paella[2].

It's not that they are very orthodox recipes, cut and paste from a traditional recipe cookbook, but instead very good adaptations of them, taking into account ingredients availability and different contexts.

I can't really tell about other cousines, but judging how he cooks Spanish food I'd say he knows what he's talking about.

Add to that that he seems like a very decent and empathetic person and I'd say he's someone you want to listen to if you are looking for cooking advice.

[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lD3WyeqCDHw

[2] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ASP74I0B7zo

That's exactly the problem: assuming that the only valid reason to talk about an awkward situation is to convince the other person that they are wrong or change their behaviour.

We can talk about about awkward things, nobody has to convince anyone of anything. You can listen to the other person and just come to understand how they feel and why. You don't need to feel the same way, just have a better understanding of why they feel how they feel.

If more people did this the world would be a much better place. It'd accomplish a lot, I think.

There's a common misconception that awkward conversations should be avoided because they are difficult and elicit drama. But that's just magical thinking. Believing that to make something go away you just need to stop thinking about it. Push it out of your conscience.

But not talking about something doesn't magically make it disappear. Things you don't talk about are still there, lurking in the shadows, subconsciously influencing everything you do.

Hey uses turbolinks, so opening an email is an XHR call not a full page reload.

A context switch in a modern CPU takes only a few microseconds. A GB of RAM costs less than $10. So those concerns, although valid in theory, are usually irrelevant for most web applications.

On the other hand, simplicity in a code base usually matter. Code written with an evented API, littered of callbacks, is usually harder to read and maintain than that written in a sequential way with a blocking I/O API.

You can recreate a sync API on top of an evented architecture using async/await, but then you have the same performance characteristics of a blocking API, but with all the evented complexity lurking underneath and leaking here and there. Seems to me a very convoluted way to arrive to the point from where we started.

ORMHate is nothing new under the sun. Martin Fowler wrote a more balanced article about the issue years ago https://www.martinfowler.com/bliki/OrmHate.html

The median annual household income worldwide is about 10k/year. 20k/year puts you in the 91st percentile globally for person income. So it's perfectly possible to live with that money, most people in the world do.

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