Well, this happens to men as well. I'm a male engineer and not being asked, not being trusted is just how it works at my current job. YMMV
The reason why we are seeing negative reactions here might be that some people are seriously tired of everything being sexism.[1]
[1]: e.g. "Donglegate" Adria Richards, who cost two people their jobs because she 1.) most likely misunderstood a joke that was not meant for her 2.) misused female privilege (yes, they exist as well)
The issue arises around the fluff piece with your example: "Redmond, now 40, didn't want to leave her tech career. But she felt stuck..." Tell me 1 person in america that doesn't or hasn't felt this way in a career or a job. The real issue is...if those were men, we would not be having this conversation and you would be saying "suck it up".
Examples include: Redmond, now 40, didn't want to leave her tech career. But she felt stuck, with no way to advance ; Chou, "The continuous pattern of all these people treating me like I didn't know what was going on, or excluding me from conversations and not trusting my assertions, all these things added up and it felt like there was an undercurrent of sexism"
Frankly this dismissive "misogyny is everywhere" attitude is pretty unhelpful. It isn't everywhere and even if it were it implies that it is somehow endemic to our culture which it isn't. Many industries actively support and encourage women especially in senior management positions.