One of my biggest problems is the all-too-pervasive attitude that #2 means that users shouldn't be able to control things that "do the right thing", rather than that the device defaults to doing the right thing. I find myself all too often in "edge case" situations that would be very easy to fix manually if I could dig around in some settings panel, but modern design philosophy seems to consider including a setting like that to be a design failure in some way.

One example is a lack of any kind of manual focus on any phone cameras. If I'm taking a picture of a person or a cat or something the autofocus does the job right almost every time, but try taking a picture of a small shiny button or something - it's a nightmare. If I could press up-down-up-down-A-B-A-B-start-select and get a manual focus slider, I'd be happy all the time, but instead my few salient memories of fighting with the autofocus have soured me on the whole experience.