Re:Toddlers regulate behavior to avoid making adults angry
by toast0 on Wednesday October 08, 2014 @10:52PM
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Being able to observe behavior and predict results is clearly good. At a young age, avoiding angering strangers is probably good too. At any age, it's probably best to know in advance when you are likely to anger strangers, even if you choose to anger them.
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Re:Toddlers regulate behavior to avoid making adults angry
by ZenoArrow on Thursday October 09, 2014 @12:36AM
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What you're talking about is emotional intelligence, what I'm talking about is self-reliance. There's some overlap, but they aren't the same thing.
Re:Toddlers regulate behavior to avoid making adults angry
by jeffdavis on Thursday October 09, 2014 @02:25AM
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Self-reliance of toddlers? I guess you mean that they learn self-reliance faster by being less obedient? Not sure I follow the reasoning.
Re:Toddlers regulate behavior to avoid making adults angry
by yebyen on Thursday October 09, 2014 @09:18AM
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I think he's talking about the premise of the original post, that children must depend on adults to get angry at them (and ostensibly, parents that don't get angry enough will have obnoxious children who don't know right from wrong.)
Self-reliance, they can judge whether their actions are good or not without trying every bad action once and needing some adult to get angry at them in order to know which ones are bad. (you know, like our government. rimshot)
Re:Toddlers regulate behavior to avoid making adults angry
by ZenoArrow on Thursday October 09, 2014 @02:41PM
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Yes, you understood what I meant. It's also true that people can sometimes show anger for no good reason, so it's about recognising this as well. It's about developing a balance between "sometimes I'm right" and "sometimes they're right".