I think it's actually a step toward what you want. That kind of relationship is fairly rare and you're not going to be able to feel it with everyone. Feeling a desire for a connection gives you a better chance of finding one :) For me, I just kept making more nominal "friends" (which I had never been good at) until I found a few that I actually liked. It's been 4 years of working on this and I feel like I'm only slightly better at it, but hey - at least I have some real friends now!