My advice is to get a job at corporation that pays twice or more than your current income. Just keep asking for this much and sooner or later someone will agree. When you'll see piles of money, more than you ever dreamt of needing, flowing in for doing easier things than you do today you'll stress much less about percieved inefficiencies of your wife and life. I was in similar situation to yours and used to sob on my birthdays and other yearly occasions. It all ended once I began to earn absurd amounts of money (for my standards). It really helps to earn more than you need to see how useless money is to shed of the fear of not getting rich disguised as ambition.