Somehow, furtive glances doesn't come across much better.

Try getting sternly lectured for 10 minutes because because you held the door open for a stranger to be polite. That's when you know shit gotten real.

For the record, I routinely hold open doors for people that I know are behind me and are leaving/entering a building. It surprised me to know end to get yelled at for it.

I had that happen, so I laughed. Then she got really angry... doesn't stop me, though. I hold the door for everyone, because it's polite, not because someone is whatever gender.

> I hold the door for everyone, because it's polite, not because someone is whatever gender.

Exactly why I do it.

I've resigned myself to the fact that some people are just assholes. It's a trait that's not gender specific.

Dudes do it for dudes all the time. Its just one more way to acknowledge others, as is thanking someone that holds the door for you.

First time I had that happen I quickly shut the door in the young lady’s face. Didn’t hit her, but it fell in place and she had to open it again herself.

She was pretty unhappy about that as well, incidentally.

Woah! Glad to know I'm not alone. I do this all the time. Never had a bad experience yet though.

This will get me downvoted, but: some women are just crazy. Some men, too, of course.

I know it's shocking if something like the door thing happens to you, but I wouldn't assume it reflects the general attitude of women.

I learned my response to this from a comment on a BBC article

"I do not offer my seat because you are a lady, but because I was taught to be a gentleman" - works for doors too.

My Dad would have had a fit if I didn't hold the door open for a group. He expected his children to be polite.

A woman yelled at you for holding the door for her? Really? What were you wearing? Had you been drinking that day? How long were you dating her?

Wearing regular day clothes. I dont drink. No, my current girlfriend (who identifies as a feminist) thinks the idea of yelling at someone for adhering to the social niceties is strange after I told her about the incident.

I'm Canadian too! And been lectured to about it.

Where did this happen? I'm curious.

I'm not Ensorceled, but I'm Canadian and this has happened to me too (in NYC and San Diego).

Nothing too bad, but people have glared at me, asked what I was doing or if they knew me, etc.

I was astonished; it's just something that everybody does where I live so it was weird to have people react like I was doing something outrageous.

It is possible to check someone out without staring at them and without looking like a creep.

Hmmm nah I'm going to go with it being both possible and totally okay to look at someone and think "I am physically attracted to that person."