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Re:This is What it's Like to Be a Woman at a Bitcoin Meetup by wonderzombie on Friday January 24, 2014 @07:42PM (#7119265)
Nobody ought to ask you to do something you're uncomfortable with, and nobody ought to expect you to be the social enforcer or whatever. I empathize 100%.

But if a woman's body language seems particularly bad, or you know your friend/acquaintance only just met this person? That seems like a good opportunity to speak up without "interrogating" people, as you put it.

Truth be told, it's more about friends who enable their friends' asshole behavior by looking the other way. Assholes cannot be 100% friendless, nor only friends with other assholes.

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Re:This is What it's Like to Be a Woman at a Bitcoin Meetup by dragonwriter on Friday January 24, 2014 @07:53PM (#7119305)
But people can (and many do) engage in socially unacceptable behavior more, or exclusively, in contexts in which their friends (or people that know them more generally) aren't around to recognize them and observe it.
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Re:This is What it's Like to Be a Woman at a Bitcoin Meetup by wonderzombie on Sunday January 26, 2014 @02:33PM (#7126469)
Who's suggesting you need to police everybody? Think of it like being an ally or a spotter, not an enforcer or inquisitor.
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Re:This is What it's Like to Be a Woman at a Bitcoin Meetup by Crito on Friday January 24, 2014 @07:49PM (#7119290)
> But if a woman's body language seems particularly bad, or you know your friend/acquaintance only just met this person? That seems like a good opportunity to speak up without "interrogating" people, as you put it.

That seems reasonable to me. You make a good point about friends enabling assholes too.

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