Re:Unprofessionalism
by jamesbritt on Tuesday December 24, 2013 @07:46PM
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Partaking in fetish behavior makes you worse? And you should feel bad about it?
That makes no sense to me.
Perhaps I'm misunderstanding what was said here.
Re:Unprofessionalism
by jbigelow76 on Tuesday December 24, 2013 @08:51PM
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Lots of people have hang-ups and insecurities when it comes to sex. The easiest way to reconcile those hang-ups is to turn them into moral referendums.
I'm basically talking about a generalization of the phrase "guilty pleasure." It's not about being right or wrong in any objective, moral sense; it's just about the experience of "rightness" or "wrongness."
But there are other subcultures you can join, where being a member of them doesn't make you better. It makes you worse. And "accept that you're doing something bad and you should feel bad" is basically a checkbox on the EULA for joining the subculture. (Most sexual kinks/fetishes are like this, for example.)
The authors were surprised to find people who thought of Nickelback as more like a religion than a kink. Probably because anyone they knew who liked Nickelback, did it in the kink-like way.