Another crucial difference is that you can easily choose to not read and participate in feminist blogs and communities, whereas I have to interact with tech communities every single day. Reading tech websites is crucial to my career, and well, I gotta go to the office every day too.

I work at a top tech company in Silicon Valley, in a team of 200 men and 10 women. The men aren't intentionally hostile towards me at all, but they are blissfully ignorant of how their comments and behavior genuinely makes it hard for the few women around them to succeed and be considered equals.