You have the right and the duty to judge the people in your life. This doesn't make you a bad person. On the contrary, it's part of the human experience.

People who say they are not judgmental are the worst kind of liars, because they lie not only to others, but also to themselves.

> People who say they are not judgmental are the worst kind of liars

You need to meet more, nicer people.

Which is fine, but also understand that others will be judging you.

heal thy self

But see, judging people is inevitable. Everybody judges everything all the time, whether openly or not. And in general there's nothing wrong with that. One cannot ever be so objective about oneself to see or acknowledge that something might not be as peachy as one thinks. It's about having more data points to evaluate your life :) and doesn't mean you have to bend to other people's ideas about life etc. Of course, you have to grow some thick skin for this and a lot of people tend to break down really bad when faced with any kind of judgement, but I think learning to receive it is a big part of growing up.

OTOH, being downright mean, or just an annoying busybody is another thing altogether, and, yes, a lot of people have a hard time judging (maybe "evaluating" would be a better word) without at least some malice. But I think saying any kind of judgement is bad isn't at all helpful for individuals or society at large. It leads to people developing blind spots for harmful behaviour.

You, sir, have a finely tuned sense of irony.

(judge == evaluate) != (judge == condemn)

I wish there were a better way to disambiguate "judge".

How can you have evaluation without the possibility of condemnation? If your evaluation is always positive, it's not very useful.

I think its a question of path dependency. You can evaluate a piece of work, without being dismissive; being to quick to judge; being toxic rather than constructive in your criticism. Etc. The phrase "judgemental" has an idiomatic meaning in english, akin to burning bridges before they are crossed.

I think his point is that sometimes "judge" is used to mean "evaluate with a negative outcome"; it's not judging in that sense until the evaluation comes out negative. It's hard to tell which sense is being used.

I think people may have missed the point here.

Recursively your kind is one of the worst kind of people. Or was this non-judgemental "worst" adjective? :)