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Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by wolfgke on Friday September 13, 2013 @06:57PM (#6383709)
Having read these articles, there's one thing that I don't appreciate: in these articles kids of poor people are mentioned. Why in the hell are these people "producing" children, if they aren't 100% certain that they'll be able to support them for the years until they are old enough to stand on their own feet?

Strokes of fate that lead to poverty are one side, but the side is reproding if you are poor: I consider this as highly irresponsible - for you as for your children.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by alexqgb on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:31PM (#6383871)
You don't have to be terribly intelligent to realize that the percentage of people who can be "100% certain" that their finances will not implode at any point in a quarter-century span is vanishingly small.

Seriously, think about what you're saying here. Also, be aware that severe poverty is actually the best reason to have children. If some manage to survive, they're your best chance for care in old age.

Indeed, that's why birthrates tend to be the highest in the most desperate places on Earth. And that's why there's no surer way to reduce the birthrate than to develop social insurance structures that are strong enough and equitable enough for people to feel that they don't need to have lots of children for one or two to survive, and that they won't be utterly dependent on those they do have for care in their dotage.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by chrismonsanto on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:36PM (#6383897)
- The GP did not say anything about the richest of the rich only having children, nor did they say that they were libertarian.

- Calling the GP an asshole and implying that they aren't "terribly intelligent" can only serve to detract from your argument.

EDIT: At least you took out the asshole comment

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by alexqgb on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:57PM (#6383990)
He specifically said people should be "100% certain" that they can support their children until their children can support themselves. Given that this normally entails a span of ~25 years (assuming two kids through college), that group is both certainly and obviously limited to the richest of the rich.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by waps on Friday September 13, 2013 @10:08PM (#6384343)
Having kids is a human right. That should be the end of the discussion. Anyone, rich or poor, is

* entitled to have children [1]

* entitled to financial and other aid to raise those children safely and securely [2]

  [1] UDHR, Article 16, paragraph (1) http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/#a16
  [2] UDHR, Article 25, paragraph (2) http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/#a25

Since the US has signed these treaties, and unless it intends to back out, there can be no government policy that does not follow these articles.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by clarkm on Friday September 13, 2013 @10:39PM (#6384427)
Why is calling something a "human right" and pointing to some UN declaration any different than calling something a "God-given right" and pointing to the Bible?
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by msellout on Friday September 13, 2013 @11:22PM (#6384529)
International law.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by s_kilk on Saturday September 14, 2013 @12:35PM (#6386128)
It's different in that the UN demonstrably exists.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by waps on Saturday September 14, 2013 @09:18PM (#6387795)
That the UN exists does not explain the reason behind the policies.

That's like saying the bible is true because the printer exists, or the church, which is of course trivially true. That some organisation is behind a document does not make it true or false.

And keep in mind that the League of nations (the creators of the UN) came forth from the Red cross, which was a division of the army that guards of the pope.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by tomjen3 on Saturday September 14, 2013 @07:57AM (#6385313)
No, it is not a human right. If we can just point to websites as undisputed facts, then the earth is flat.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by wolfgke on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:47PM (#6383944)
> That's right, pathologically selfish and dangerously anti-social "libertarians" who think that only the richest of the rich should even consider having children in the first place.

Libertarians would never come up with the idea that only the richest should be allowed since this would be a deprivation of freedom (which libertarians appreciate).

I didn't they that only the richest people should have children. I only claim that it is irresponsible to produce children if you don't have enough financial security: both for the expenses and for the fact that the child will suffer from the poverty.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by alexqgb on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:54PM (#6383979)
Sorry dude, but you very specifically said that parents need to be "100% certain" that they can provide for their kids until their kids can provide for themselves. In America, that standard means one thing and one thing only: the richest of the rich.

Also, it doesn't take much education to become aware of this country's long and unbroken history of race-based brutality (slavery, Jim Crow, and the War on Drugs to say nothing of the outright genocide inflicted on Native Americans). Nor do you have to be exceptionally thoughtful to recognize the resulting correlations between race and poverty that persist today. And given how deeply engrained these problems have become, saying "poor people simply shouldn't reproduce" is tantamount to insisting that entire races suddenly give up on themselves in a sweeping acts of self-destruction. Which, yeah, right. Maybe go fuck yourself?

There's another, far more decent response to systematically denigrated people who struggle mightily to raise their kids: you help them.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by pharrington on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:04PM (#6383749)
Are you sure you thought this post through?
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by lod on Friday September 13, 2013 @08:28PM (#6384094)
"These people", "producing children". He doesn't see that these are humans. This is a result of a combination of logical, and irrational situations.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by angersock on Friday September 13, 2013 @09:06PM (#6384193)
Well, once you can't afford cable or 'net access, your recreational activities are limited.

More seriously, you never 'know' that you'll be perfectly economically steady and care-free for the 18+ years required to raise a child to middle-class American standards until that time has passed--at which point you probably shouldn't be reproducing anyways due to age-related defects.

Unless you are talking about "Hey, I'm in a homeless shelter, lemme get knocked up/knock up because why not", you paint in too broad strokes.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by protomyth on Friday September 13, 2013 @09:29PM (#6384261)
Dad and Mom were making good coin with a secure future when they had myself and my brother. The world doesn't respect secure. You'll also find that you need children when your poor in many places to have a shot at a future.

I still think fish is poor people's food and won't eat it again.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by lutusp on Saturday September 14, 2013 @12:57AM (#6384707)
> Why in the hell are these people "producing" children, if they aren't 100% certain that they'll be able to support them for the years until they are old enough to stand on their own feet?

Because childbearing is not a rational choice -- it's a visceral response to the most basic of biological drives, drives that won't brook interference from something as peripheral as intelligence.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by superuser2 on Friday September 13, 2013 @10:05PM (#6384334)
The prevalence of pro-early marriage, pro-birth, anti-condom social and religious values probably has something to do with this, as well as the fact that it's an evolutionary given that everyone wants to have children (or at least sex). Hard to argue with biology.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by waps on Friday September 13, 2013 @10:15PM (#6384366)
Do you think those values are wrong ?

Look at the fertility numbers : if the rich were made responsible for producing the nation's offspring ... well there wouldn't be a future for America.

Furthermore, there is nothing that increases happiness half as much as having a child.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by superuser2 on Friday September 13, 2013 @10:49PM (#6384455)
Yes, I do, because they give people a moral argument that outweighs the ethical problems of creating a human being capable of suffering from hunger when you know you probably can't feed her (well).
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by waps on Friday September 13, 2013 @10:58PM (#6384480)
If that is true, then Americans are violating eachother's human rights, and laws should be changed until that stops being a valid concern, because the US has signed the human rights treaty. It's that simple. The same goes for other concerns that stand in the way of poor people having children.

http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/#a16

http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/#a25

And if the problem is food, then I would say the US is violating far more than just those 2 rules.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by superuser2 on Friday September 13, 2013 @11:24PM (#6384533)
Ah, but now you are talking about expanding government (which can't do anything right) and taking from people what they've rightfully earned by being superior people and "working harder." And if you believe in supply-side economics, preventing growth which would trickle down into food for those children. Some people consider that a violation of their human rights too.

I don't. I think a little socialism is healthy. But I defy you to solve this without screwing over at least one large group of voters. If that were possible, it probably would have been done already.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by PeterisP on Saturday September 14, 2013 @10:58AM (#6385725)
Why do you equate lack of population growth with a bad future?

USA was a perfectly fine country back in 1990 when it had 250m people; and it would be a perfectly fine country if it'd have 250m people today instead of the current 315m.

In fact (contrary to "nothing that increases happiness half as much as having a child") I'd say that the Earth might be a happier place if the future had, say, 1-2 billion people instead of the current 7b or expected 10b - as everybody would have a larger share of the fundamentally limited natural resources, freshwater and space.

If the current resources were distributed somewhat fairly, then noone could have a lifestyle approaching even the "first world" working class - quality life is possible either for an unfairly small part of population, or if there is less population in the first place; and low-by-choice fertility is the most reasonable way to achieve that.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by tsotha on Saturday September 14, 2013 @06:41PM (#6387351)
>Why do you equate lack of population growth with a bad future?

When the health of your social programs is based on continued population growth the future may indeed be grim without it.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by PeterisP on Sunday September 15, 2013 @01:26PM (#6389624)
Actually, the health of our social programs isn't that based on continued population growth; they'd work pretty much the same with a stable population size.

However, the bane of those social programs is quickly increasing lifespans. No matter if population growth is zero or huge, if you're currently below 45, you anyway have to "prepare for yourself" rather than expect them to survive in the current form - unless the retirement age moves beyond 80 within this decade.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by tsotha on Monday September 16, 2013 @06:58PM (#6396447)
I don't see how you can separate the two. The current system used to work because the population was growing and people didn't live as long. Either change would be enough to result in lower benefits.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by enraged_camel on Friday September 13, 2013 @11:41PM (#6384564)
>>Why in the hell are these people "producing" children, if they aren't 100% certain that they'll be able to support them for the years until they are old enough to stand on their own feet?

A variety of factors, primarily two:

1. Poor people tend to have poor education, and are rarely if ever taught about things like birth control.

2. Poor people also tend to be very religious, and in America at least the main religion is anti-birth control.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by hnal943 on Saturday September 14, 2013 @05:37PM (#6387161)
Yes that's the problem in the inner city: too much religion. Ridiculous.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by discostrings on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:44PM (#6383925)
Responsibility is a luxury reserved for those who can afford it.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by hosh on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:52PM (#6383968)
That sounds really profound, except it isn't. That assertion is another way of justifying or rationalizing learned helplessness.

It is true that there are a lot of things that suck, that few people with access to resources really empathize with those in scarcity trap. Thing is, people are not as helpless as they like to think they are.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by gutnor on Friday September 13, 2013 @09:29PM (#6384258)
Actually that is a perverse effect of being poor in a consumer driven society, and it is even worse in a society that value Freedom so highly like the US.

Because being poor is a complete absence of freedom. If you want to get out of it, you need to follow extremely rigorous lifestyle (like the one published by MacDonald) for decades, with each mistake costing you years of saving.

That is doable in the country side, but in urbanised area where you are bombarded 24/7 with adds, tempted by very easy credit, surrounded by toxic peers in a society that hates you ? If you think it is, then consider that you also start with a 13 IQ handicap().

Picture that as trying to be on a very strict diet while working drunk in your favourite sweet factory, with everybody around you gorging themselves, even those that shouldn't.

() http://www.businessinsider.com/poverty-effect-on-intelligenc...

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by hosh on Saturday September 14, 2013 @03:59PM (#6386873)
Sure, though I have found that when people talk about freedom these days, it's really more about power and less about freedom.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by discostrings on Friday September 13, 2013 @08:30PM (#6384106)
I'm noting my observation of a social and economic phenomenon, not justifying that approach or expounding a principle we should live by.

There are many incentives to being irresponsible today, and learning about being responsible with resources involves having some non-volatile resources with which to be responsible to start. When you grow up surrounded by scarcity and a general attitude of helplessness and irresponsibility, it's really hard to develop a responsible approach to life. As a culture, I think we tend to encourage continued irresponsibility. It seems to me that in the world we've created, just a little responsibility doesn't pay--to get off to a viable start, one really needs a critical mass of responsibility, which is difficult to acquire on your own with no resources.

People are not as helpless as they think they are, but they have little way of knowing it without the benefit of having already had the experience of having resources and responsibility.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by hosh on Saturday September 14, 2013 @04:06PM (#6386901)
Responsibility is usually a concept that is emotionally tied with blame and punishment. That's how most people talk about responsibility.

However, if you are reacting to past associations with rewards and punishments, you are not being response-able. Being responsible doesn't mean, "I am going to be a responsible adult," as in, "I am fulfilling this socially-conditioned image of an 'adult'." Responsibility means being able to make choices (whether they are informed, or not, wise or foolish, it does not matter; there is no such thing as a "responsible choice"), then accepting all the consequences of each choice. It's only when you accept what is, is, are you able to respond with more choices and actions. People tend to want to make choices, yet avoid accepting the unexpected or undesirable outcomes of those choice. By avoiding or deluding themselves into thinking the undesirable did not happen, they compound avoidance with more avoidance until they are paralyzed, unable to act. They are unable to respond.

Sometimes, to avoid a trap, you have to let things go. You let go of what seems to be urgent, accept the consequence of letting go of the urgent, in order to make room to climb out of the trap. Or to use a more concrete metaphor: if your foot is caught in a bear trap, and the bear is coming after you, and you don't want to be eaten, then chop off your foot. (That or just sit down and die with dignity).

Yes. It sucks. Yes, it will hurt. Yes, you might still die of infections, bleeding out, or get chased down by the bear. Or maybe the bear gets distracted by the newly chopped-off foot and you're able to hobble away. What is, is. You choose, you accept.

So most people who think of themselves as responsible adults are not actually responsible. They are simply re-enacting behaviors and emotional patterns of a child with a parent; the parental figure often being society and other authority figures. This re-enactment happens whether someone grows up in an environment of scarcity or abundance. In face of situations that really suck, these folk regress into the helpless child, hoping someone else will make the hard choices for them or magically make things better. Or lament that, they've done all the right things, it's not fair that things suck.

People who think of "responsibility" this way tends to use paternalistic language -- something, I think, that your word usage suggests.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by discostrings on Saturday September 14, 2013 @05:10PM (#6387082)
Yes, the common notion of "responsibility" you criticize is what I was responding to and talking about: the rule-based, considered-in-advance, "responsible choice" idea that having children in certain situations is "irresponsible". You are saying that that definition isn't really responsibility at all, and while I'd have to think about it some more to be sure, I think I agree.

Many people use the term in the prescriptivist fashion you critize, which makes it hard to respond to those ideas without using the term. I'm not sure what else one could call it. Prescribed responsibility? Whatever you call it, it's really easy for those with many resources to make rules of "responsibility" that make little sense to those who have no resources, and then to criticize those without the resources for being "irresponsible". That was what I meant with my original comment--it's easy to be "responsible" in the making-sure-things-go-well sense when you have enough resources to pay your way out of bad choices. Responsibility in the sense of accepting-the-consequences-of-your-actions-and-moving-on-from-there certainly has a different formulation that isn't dependent on having resources.

Thanks for your comments--I think there really are two separate ideas of "responsibility" being discussed, which I'd never really thought about much before. The two shouldn't be conflated, but I think they are all the time. When I first wrote my original comment, I wasn't quite convinced about the idea myself, but I thought it was interesting enough to put forward as an idea. You've helped me unravel which part of it doesn't quite seem right and which part rings true.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by hosh on Sunday September 15, 2013 @02:14AM (#6388258)
By the way, it was in my teenage years that I first encountered the idea of respond-ability. This was first introduced implicitly by reading nearly all of Robert A. Heinlein's novels. I think I came across the formal concept in Steven Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

However, it wasn't until in the past couple years that I understood "acceptance" (and that understanding is not acceptance). That required practicing a specific form of mindfulness meditation, called Vipassana, or insight meditation. All of Vipassana is simply accepting the sensations, emotions, and thoughts as they arise ... and pass. Usually, there are comfortable and comforting sensations, emotions, and thoughts that we don't want to let go of, and ugly stuff we don't want to experience. Acceptance is acceptance, whether stuff comes up or passes on. Usually, people's fundamental, existential misery kicks in and they run away from Vipassana. Your mileage may vary.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by hosh on Sunday September 15, 2013 @02:01AM (#6388239)
Fair enough. It is difficult to make a distinction of the two terms if we don't have another term. I had started writing about how difficult it was to find a term to substitute the common-usage of responsibility. Then a possibility popped up.

The rules-based, considered-in-advanced "responsible choice" is more akin to expectations and standards. That is, one's outwardly measurable behavior can be observed and held up against a standard. This is the typical way a child is socialized.

The other, responsibility in the sense of accepting-the-consequences-of-your-actions-and-moving-on-from-there falls more along the lines of, "with great responsibility comes great power." It's really the language of power (and as a side-effect, freedom and resources). It's choice after stripping away the social expectations.

I have discovered (and experienced) a way to teach a child how to make choices, accept its consequences, and move from there. It requires a teacher who has been initiated in this. When the child makes a choice, the teacher engages in a conversation to probe the motivations. Is the choice really Choice, or are there some underlying hidden agendas. (For example, the child might be thinking, "If I do this, then Dad will be proud of me, and I will feel accepted."). It's only when these hidden agendas are stripped away from the child, then the teacher points out that this is Choice. "Ok. You chose this. Here is what you do."

The teacher then shows a little bit of the practice to accomplish it, and then sits there with the student and let the child do it. (Not read a book, not watch Netflix, not go away and leave the child to it; the presence of mind of the teacher witnessing is actually very important). It is very important that the teacher never hold the child's hands. If you've stripped away all the hidden agendas and motivations, then if you hold their hand, they are not really accepting the consequences of Choice. You're not accepting their Choice. It is, however, OK, to answer questions, to correct incorrect attempts after the fact (typical newbie mistakes like, forcing things, or going too fast, and sometimes demonstrating something once the child has tried it first).

It's even ok if the child feels overwhelmed by the Choice. That's actually an awesome initiation. The typical response is to seek an adult figure to do it for them. This is where the teacher maintains discipline: the child has to do it for himself. Reminders that, "you chose this" often helps. Usually, the child is not really struggling with the challenges of task or skill, but rather, struggling with inner aversions and inability to accept the suffering that comes with the work.

However, when the child gains some achievement in the task, he knows for sure that it wasn't because people did it for him. He knows it wasn't because someone else expected it of him. He knows it resulted from his effort. He knows to his bone, he chose to do something and he did it himself. External praise isn't required. (What's the point? You know you accomplished it, the presence of praise from the outside is irrelevant). Often though, continued discipline to have the child keep practicing is needed. (Once is not enough, that's why it is called "practice"). Usually, as the skills mature, and as the child matures, the child grows into adulthood with the capability of disciplining himself.

If it sounds intense and a lot of work, it is. It requires a lot of attention from the teacher. It's not scalable. In fact, this dynamic is closer to the older master-apprentice model of instruction (assuming the master didn't have his own hidden agendas).

What you end up with though, is someone who knows how to grow into tasks bigger than himself.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by wolfgke on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:51PM (#6383963)
Because of the costs for the child there's even an incentive for the poor not to produce children.

In other cases (for example ecological awareness etc.) there is - unluckily - a chance that you are right.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by tsotha on Saturday September 14, 2013 @04:22PM (#6386938)
That's just bullshit. The people who can least afford to be irresponsible are poor people.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by murtali on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:12PM (#6383792)
lack of access to contraceptives or family planning services?
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by Raphmedia on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:15PM (#6383804)
The answer is "love", you robots.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by Raphmedia on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:40PM (#6383911)
This is an answer to "Why in the hell are these people "producing" children, if they aren't 100% certain that they'll be able to support them for the years until they are old enough to stand on their own feet?"

No, lack of contraception is not the issue here either. What, do you think that because you have low monetary gain you are perpetually unhappy and would not want to have children? That all procreation coming the poorest are mistakes and accidents?

That's quite a nice bubble there. Sorry to burst it.

If two people love each other enough, they might want to have a child. Yes, even if the future is unclear. Yes, even if it means selling the car, taking the public transportation and working over time and having multiple jobs. Whether the situation is permanent or temporary is not even an issue here.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by waps on Friday September 13, 2013 @10:21PM (#6384384)
+1

Plus. Having a marriage and children, and getting all financial assistance needed to achieve that is a human right.

The US has signed the treaty enshrining that principle into law ... case closed.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by wolfgke on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:24PM (#6383847)
Does it really show love towards your partner, if you give him/her a big future financial burden? Also: does it show love towards the prospective child to give him birth into a family where it will suffer of the poverty?
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by Raphmedia on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:52PM (#6383966)
That's implying that you "give" a child as a "surprise" when you are living with a partner.

Accidents being the exception, having a child is a huge decision. Especially if you are quite poor.

I have no idea what your personal experience of life is, nor your background. But you seem to have some skewed vision of life if you believe that "these people" shouldn't "produce children" as if the poor were not even humans.

Poor people have children for the same reasons rich people do. The only exception being that there are less gifts at christmas.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by Aloha on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:49PM (#6383950)
People dont produce children, Humans have sex, make babies. We've been doing it for as long as humans have existed.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by jlgreco on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:33PM (#6383882)
How is that comment suppose to make somebody who is waiting for a better time to having a kid feel?

Are they robots for practicing family planning? Do they not familiar with "love"?

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by edyoung on Saturday September 14, 2013 @09:42AM (#6385520)
Nobody is criticizing people who practice family planning. A lot of comments do seem to be debating the merits of having children without acknowledging or seemingly comprehending that there is a huge emotional, non-rational component to that decision, regardless of the parents' annual income.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by derleth on Friday September 13, 2013 @07:31PM (#6383873)
> The answer is "love", you robots.

Because "love" totally makes condoms not work.

Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by Retric on Friday September 13, 2013 @08:12PM (#6384047)
When you are poor condoms are fucking expencive and don't work long term. There is a reason people sell cheap 2l soda despite the fact a 2l bottle coke is 'Realy Cheap' to 95+% of HN posters.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by derleth on Friday September 13, 2013 @08:24PM (#6384083)
I thought planned parenthood type places gave condoms away.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by dgabriel on Friday September 13, 2013 @09:19PM (#6384228)
There are fewer of those very day.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by Raphmedia on Friday September 13, 2013 @09:10PM (#6384206)
If you love cheap condoms, sure. Great for a one night, but not something you would want to use daily...
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by zouhair on Saturday September 14, 2013 @12:44AM (#6384690)
Because having kids is a joy of life that doesn't need huge money put upfront. Only the ones with enough money can afford to wait to have kids to enjoy life a little more and be more ready for said kids. The poor do not have that luxury.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by poppysan on Friday September 13, 2013 @09:57PM (#6384317)
You should let us know exactly who has the right to reproduce. Poor people don't?
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by tsotha on Saturday September 14, 2013 @12:02AM (#6384606)
Sure they do. But do they have a right to use the fact that they have kids to sponge off the rest of us?
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by eli_gottlieb on Saturday September 14, 2013 @03:34PM (#6386769)
They're not sponging off you. You're exploiting them.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by tsotha on Saturday September 14, 2013 @04:56PM (#6387050)
I have no idea how anyone could arrive at that conclusion. By going to work every day and paying taxes I'm exploiting people who're staying home having kids they can't afford? I can't wait to hear how you connect those dots.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by tsotha on Saturday September 14, 2013 @05:00PM (#6387056)
As others have pointed out there's no such thing as 100% certainty. But I agree with the thrust of your post - having children when you can't provide for them is irresponsible.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by fckthensa2 on Sunday September 15, 2013 @06:52PM (#6390643)
Poor people are "producing" children because they actually want to have children and love them just like anyone else. Not having children will be seen as just another inequality imposed on them.
Re:Being poor changes your thinking about everything by lutusp on Sunday September 15, 2013 @06:58PM (#6390660)
There's some truth to that, but it's also true that children are an economic factor in the lives of the poor, especially those involved in agriculture.