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Re:Drug addiction: The complex truth by codyb on Friday September 13, 2013 @12:53PM (#6381624)
Why do you recommend not assigning meaning to your spouse?

I think the Yogi is eventually one with it. He doesn't try any of the methods you offered. Controlling it, embracing it, or rejecting it. He just let's it be. And in that way he becomes free from it.

Re:Drug addiction: The complex truth by delluminatus on Friday September 13, 2013 @05:31PM (#6383306)
In my (admittedly limited) experience, people are taking a big risk by making their spouse a critical source of meaning in their life. I think the problem is that it's reliant on reciprocation, whereas the others aren't (except children to some extent).

With respect to your comment on the yogi: note that most yogi follow some number of vows [0] and abstentions [1] that seem to me to be very much an attempt at "controlling it." Eventually I guess they don't need to "control it" anymore, once they reach Samadhi, but in practice the path of the Yogi is typically one of repression.

[0] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yamas

[1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Niyama

Re:Drug addiction: The complex truth by codyb on Friday September 13, 2013 @05:54PM (#6383438)
I totally agree. I think in real life most people decide following these path's will allow them to reach enlightenment or at least come closer. Despite that I don't think one who has reached enlightenment feels they're controlling anything at all, nor does that bother them in any way.