I'm not interested in being a PHB. That is my aversion to management...
Then don't be a PHB. PHB is a stereotype and a caricature. Being a good leader is all about people skills, and what you're looking for sounds a lot like what a project manager could do. Note "could": once you step up to management, you become the chief architect of your own job. If you project PHB on it, that that's what you'll be.
My response: "management" is a fuzzy area. A product manager, for instance, can be very different from a project manager -- and it would involve a lot of what you're talking about.