I kind of see where you're coming from, but people are still responsible for their actions. McDonald's employs psychologists and spends millions if not billions of dollars per year to abliterate my weights in regards to their restaurant, and yet I still refuse. And it would be my choice if I gave in. As pointed out elsewhere in the comments, Huang had to make many decisions to end up in his current situation, and each one is a failure for someone leading a company of that size and influence.
Also, other reporting has well established that extramarital activity is the relative norm for ultrawealthy men in business. Are we to believe that every time one of these guys enters a sexual relationship with a younger woman, it was an attack leveled by some psy-witch harpy on a hapless CEO? It seems more likely to me that Huang was participating in normal behavior for men in his position, and in this case it may have actually had consequences.
At a deeper level we do get to choose our overall environment and what kinds of things we are exposed to frequently, the recurring patterns of life can be consciously managed and shaped. But in the moment, we are more like an LLM doing a forward pass on next token. If a specific weight relating to refusal has been abliterated, it's not realistic to expect the next token to somehow still come out to refusal.
We can control our training better than we can control our inference. We have ego-ideals and specific mental makeup that can be exploited if identified.