I think it depends a lot on the nature of the city, its population, and the infrastructure choices they've made. People that have lived different experiences may be talking past each other. Most people don't have extensive experience in a wide swath of cities.

In NYC, it's an absolute melee and all modes are in the way of each other. Places like Amsterdam have a proud biking heritage. In a more suburban US city, it's pretty much all car on car.

IMO prioritizing cars has had overall disastrous and dehumanizing effects. I think it's right for places to be pushing safer, more accessible, and less energy-intensive modes of transport, but there's a huge amount of inertia to fight at this point.