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Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by rubicon33 on Wednesday October 14, 2026 @08:29PM (#50097577)
It helps to know a thing or two, about a wide range of topics, for this reason.

Take for instance someone telling you about their career. "I'm a software developer".

You can express interest with a response like "Oh, thats cool, what made you go into that line of work?" but thats a very generic, shallow response.

If you know a thing or two about software, for example, you can ask more interesting questions that show your interest in them, and your knowledge of the space. "Woh cool, how is AI coding impacting your life?"

Suddenly, it seems like you're much more interesting yourself, AND you're interested in them.

The tricky part nowadays is everyone has very niche interests. It's harder than ever to really have a breadth of knowledge that is broadly applicable. This was easier before the internet, before travel, before telecommunication. When your community was your community and news traveled slowly, it was a lot easier to learn about what impacted others.

Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by yshamoun on Thursday October 15, 2026 @12:05AM (#50099007)
I agree with your point, but as a software developer I’d much prefer the generic response in your example.
Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by hn_user82179 on Thursday October 15, 2026 @01:55AM (#50099742)
lol yeah, everyone I meet now immediately asks me what I'm going to do about AI
Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by roncesvalles on Thursday October 15, 2026 @03:05AM (#50100265)
I love being asked "what made you go into that line of work?" because I can answer with "mostly the money" (which is a very honest answer yet socially somewhat inappropriate), and their reaction to my answer immediately gives me a signal into whether we're going to be close or not.

Some people act so shocked when you tell them you did something because it would make you richer and not because an angel came to you in a dream and whispered in your ear to save the disenfranchised underclass (and all the cats) by writing code, or whatever's the current faux na pas reason to pursue a vocation these days.

Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by ZenoArrows on Thursday October 15, 2026 @06:58AM (#50101931)
I think the reason they act that way is because you're signaling to them that you dislike your job. Which is fine, but ideally you'd find some gratification in it that isn't just monetary, since it's what you spend most of your time doing. Money can only compensate so much for a shitty job.
Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by gn_200826 on Thursday October 15, 2026 @07:03AM (#50101976)
One of the best signals I found for whether I will enjoy my conversation with someone is if they commit a small social faux pas
Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by dimaaan on Thursday October 15, 2026 @08:40AM (#50102796)
I respect the honesty. Curious, though: would you say that in a job interview too?
Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by roncesvalles on Thursday October 15, 2026 @08:42AM (#50102820)
No, and I'd also judge the interviewer hard for asking that question. I don't like interview questions that are really just cues to start spewing rehearsed bullshit.
Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by vineyardmike on Thursday October 15, 2026 @12:43PM (#50106349)
It’s considered socially crass to just care about money in life (see: Ebenezer Scrooge), but everyone does a job for money - very few jobs are actually altruistic. There are many jobs that few would do if not for the high income (eg Lawyer) or is just difficult or boring. It’s a given that the income is a motivator in a high earning job.

Answering why you picked this particular path to high income is more interesting of an answer to the person asking and carries the conversation. Did your parents do it, did you have a professor that captured your attention, did you just google “easiest job to make a lot of money?” and pick the first one?

Someone asking wants to understand how and why you make decisions. What motives you. Etc. It’s the XY problem and from the other person’s perspective, you’re answering the wrong one.

Re:Americans' Social Activity Has Steeply Declined in the Pa... by mejutoco on Thursday October 15, 2026 @02:14PM (#50107825)
> Someone asking wants to understand how and why you make decisions. What motives you

This is too simplistic. Someone might ask that for a million reasons. Also, you will be judged not only by your answer. Being so direct might show you are not on autopilot in the conversation, your humour or that you only care about money, depending on a lot of other factors. It might make one more memorable as well. I personally would read it as light humour, unless it is accompanied by a dead eyes stare.