FWIW, I used Debian more than anything over decades, and also have little patience when it comes to unstable computers. NixOS is a breath of fresh air and has reinvigorated my love of Linux. I haven't found it less stable than Debian, and also have a higher degree of confidence when making changes. It has its quirks, but ultimately I've found it a joy to use, and I'm never going back to a distro that doesn't have similar capabilities.
If you boot default Debian and apt install a handful of packages from the primary channel, it probably doesn't matter much, but if you enjoy even a modest amount of customizing, NixOS really shines. From one Linux user to another, I encourage you to try it! I have no affiliation, just an old head stoked on Nix.
This year I decided to give it another try and set it up on an ancient laptop using Claude to factor the config and it’s gone so well that I now use the same nix config to manage three different machines and it’s insanely liberating to know how easy it is to screw everything up and roll it back trivially. I now regularly make edits on one machine and then just routinely commit them and go apply on the other machines with zero friction. It’s kind of amazing.