Re:Being Ambitious and Being a Dad
by wat10000 on Wednesday August 19, 2026 @10:20AM
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To offer a contrasting opinion, I was on the fence, went for it, and it was a big mistake. Unfortunately, it's impossible to be sure what it'll be like until you try it. And there's no undo button. I would strongly recommend not having children until you're absolutely sure you want to.
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Re:Being Ambitious and Being a Dad
by mysterydip on Wednesday August 19, 2026 @10:48AM
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Absolutely agree! There are people that parenting is not a good fit, for various reasons. And it does a disservice to both the parent and the child.
> I would strongly recommend not having children until you're absolutely sure you want to.
That's good advice. I'll add the caveat that sometimes you cannot be entirely sure (few things in life are so clear cut), but if you truly hesitate, don't do it. Also don't do it for the sake of a partner who insists, or to save your relationship. Big mistake; children are neither bargaining chips nor bets that can pay off.
If you're leaning towards "yes", however, I think it can be a wonderful (if hard!) experience.