Then egos got bruised and things leave the realm of reason soon after. But coming with a request saying "Version X worked while version Y doesn't", with maybe some degree of annoyance, is fine.
We are all adults here. And this is a volunteer project. Cursing isn't a big deal. Nothing here seems like it's aimed specifically at the maintainer and mostly seems to be written as aimed vs the AI.
Later when egos get bruised the conversation drifts off the wayside. But the OSS world is rather casual with curse words, as long as you aren't insulting someone directly.
I guess this answers the question of whether you think maybe it’s ok to spit in the face of open source developers.
“I cut my finger with the kitchen knife”
“Maybe don’t hold it by the blade”
It’s something along the lines of sarcastic and deliberately unhelpful because “duh, of course don’t do that”.
Saying ~“maybe it’s not ok to do <thing> but <reasons they might do thing>” is nothing like your example and does imply it’s acceptable to the speaker to sometimes do that thing.
But we’re past that now because the person I was discussing this with has gone ahead and clarified that telling an open source maintainer to please stop fucking up isn’t an angry comment.
Why are you hedging this? Do you think maybe it is socially acceptable?