I guess I'm confused as to who is allegedly providing the counterargument that they should love out-groups more than in-groups?

It's rare to see anybody literally arguing it, but it's more common than not in the real world.

Oppression would be quite impossible throughout history if people weren't willing to oppress their own kind to the benefit of others.

Even those arguing for loyalty to the in-group are rarely those who would themselves make any sacrifices for that group.

> Oppression would be quite impossible throughout history if people weren't willing to oppress their own kind to the benefit of others.

No what's far more common is that people change their perception (or have different perceptions) of who is "their own kind."

You can actually see this happening in real time in the US with the emerging concept of "Heritage Americans." It's a way for losers and crybabies to narrow the scope of who is "their own kind" without having to openly declare that they simply don't love their countrymen.

I - and thankfully, it appears, the current administration - don't accept your definition of who is "my countrymen".

> losers and crybabies

Luckily, for now, at least, it appears to be your side that is losing and crying.

QED

> Oppression would be quite impossible throughout history if people weren't willing to oppress their own kind to the benefit of others.

Isn't the opposite far more common? When oppression happens, it is typically people oppressing the out-group for the benefit of the in-group.

My impression is that the foreign/out group delegate the actual oppressing to local representatives, who are more than eager to do it towards their own kind.

It's complex. My wife's father-in-law immigrated from Italy to escape the destruction wrought by fascism in WWII and seek economic opportunity. He was part of a diaspora of a small village in Abbruzze that settled around Binghamton, NY. I would say that they all love Italy and they all love the U.S.

Those are people I know very well because I have been to so many parties, dinners, and other events with them. I've seen the same thing with people from India, China, Sri Lanka, etc. I'd assume that it's the normal condition of immigrants.