Re:After my dad died, we found the love letters
by pfdietz on Sunday November 23, 2025 @10:11AM
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It's also built on forgiveness, because no one can possibly not ever need that.
Re:After my dad died, we found the love letters
by ninetyninenine on Sunday November 23, 2025 @09:42AM
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Exactly. I’ve even seen cases of murder where I sympathize with the perpetrator. But we need to not get too involved with the narrators plight. It’s a first person story and it’s easy to get strung along by that perspective.
For the article and the many admissions in the thread underneath people can’t just pay attention to and sympathize with the perpetrator you need to take the next step an construct realistic avatars for his relationships and visualize the intense damage done to them as well.
You’ve stolen time and emotional energy from these people. They can never get those years back.
Your children have been deprived of seeing parents role modeling romantic love. They have built their entire world views based on your behavior towards your spouse, which incorporated subtle lies and deception.
The victims of your fraud now have to deal with second guessing which things you said might be true and which might be lies - you shatter everything they ever believed throughout the marriage. It is a horrendous thing to put people through.
So can I understand why they did it? Sure. But I will definitely judge them for their actions and not support them.