Divorce plunged in Kentucky – equal custody for fathers is a big reason why

Re:Divorce plunged in Kentucky – equal custody for fathers i... by claytongulick on Friday October 03, 2025 @03:51PM (#45467069)

> I'm sure there are plenty of men downright eager to sign a contract relinquishing any paternity claim/liability as a condition of dating.

Are there?

I don't know. I don't think most men are as mercenary as that.

As someone who was literally offered this situation (a lesbian couple I was friends with that wanted a child) I can say that it simply wasn't something I could seriously consider.

How could I exist knowing that I had a child that I had little or no relationship with? A child who would constantly wonder about their father and why I wasn't part of their life?

I don't think it's just me, I think most guys would have a problem with that.

And maybe the ones that don't wouldn't be the best choice for being a father?

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Re:Divorce plunged in Kentucky – equal custody for fathers i... by mindslight on Friday October 03, 2025 @10:14PM (#45469955)

Sperm donors exist. It doesn't need to be most, or even that many. When I wrote my comment I was thinking of the many young guys that don't want to be trapped into settling down, but I agree when it comes down to it it is a much bigger mental hurdle knowing that the intent is to definitely produce a child.

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