Re:Divorce plunged in Kentucky – equal custody for fathers i...
by claytongulick on Friday October 03, 2025 @03:51PM
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> I'm sure there are plenty of men downright eager to sign a contract relinquishing any paternity claim/liability as a condition of dating.
Are there?
I don't know. I don't think most men are as mercenary as that.
As someone who was literally offered this situation (a lesbian couple I was friends with that wanted a child) I can say that it simply wasn't something I could seriously consider.
How could I exist knowing that I had a child that I had little or no relationship with? A child who would constantly wonder about their father and why I wasn't part of their life?
I don't think it's just me, I think most guys would have a problem with that.
And maybe the ones that don't wouldn't be the best choice for being a father?
Re:Divorce plunged in Kentucky – equal custody for fathers i...
by mindslight on Friday October 03, 2025 @10:14PM
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Sperm donors exist. It doesn't need to be most, or even that many. When I wrote my comment I was thinking of the many young guys that don't want to be trapped into settling down, but I agree when it comes down to it it is a much bigger mental hurdle knowing that the intent is to definitely produce a child.
IIUC, the new neutral bias applies regardless of marriage.
If a woman is looking to create a kid whom she has sole custody of, then what she is really looking for is a DIY sperm donor. I'm sure there are plenty of men downright eager to sign a contract relinquishing any paternity claim/liability as a condition of dating.
If you're talking about cases where a woman wants to create a kid, while retaining a unilateral ability to choose whether to have the man in the kid's life or not? That is a terrible dynamic and is exactly what needed reform.