I think the issue you're having is that taking it way too seriously is exactly what creates the feeling of belonging. There's a number of forums or clubs where one might discuss morality, myth, creation stories etc more like wrestling - fantasy roleplaying groups and fantasy writing circles often do include those themes for instance. But it's harder to feel true belonging through discussing whether your bard is an asshole for sleeping with a gold-hoarding dragon if you're 100% aware that neither bards or dragons exist.

Is there anything you do take super seriously? The environment, your job, parenting, a specific hobby or something? Something you think other people are missing out on by not experiencing? Looks like a club based on that would work better for you.

> But it's harder to feel true belonging through discussing whether your bard is an asshole for sleeping with a gold-hoarding dragon if you're 100% aware that neither bards or dragons exist.

But that's how it works at church. I've met plenty of people who go to church/mosque/temple and do all the god stuff there but then when it comes to it they're not stupid and behave like normal people in other situations. I've drunk wine with muslims, slept with Christians etc. The trouble is there will always be some people who don't get the joke and will take it seriously. Like the people who believe in the flat earth conspiracy now. It makes me really uncomfortable to enable something that can really ruin people's lives.

> Looks like a club based on that would work better for you.

Like I said, clubs aren't really the same. Probably because there's no "moral imperative" to go to a club (fake obviously but everyone plays along). Also the kind of clubs I would go to would be full of weirdos like me. My hobbies are best done solo.