> So Apple is now responsible for the shit show of current web development and at the same time isn’t keeping up or doesn’t care about the web? Which is it?

Yes. Apple, who once promoted the web as a distribution model, changed course once they realized that doing so would lead to less revenue. They have been actively hostile to open web standards and PWAs as a distribution model.

https://open-web-advocacy.org/blog/did-apple-just-break-web-...

https://proton.me/blog/apple-lawsuit

> And run once run anywhere has never worked in the history of the industry.

Yet it works pretty damn well on the web.