How does a good actor do this in good faith right now?
Email? Costs money. SMS? Costs money. RSS? Wildly unpopular. ActivityPub? Can't be statically hosted and fairly unpopular.
Right now they basically use fucking Facebook and fucking Twitter, and even then you're subscribing to an entire stream.
This is one of my personal "Laws", except it's not just notifications. Any communications medium will eventually be ruined by spam. What makes a medium useful to legitimate consumers/users is what makes it a target for "marketing", i.e., spam.
I've seen multiple media ruined by marketing in my lifetime. This isn't a technological problem.
In its simplest form, this isn't all that hard to build. The tricky bit is to get people to use it. And perhaps even to explain what it does and possibly how it works.
If someone knows how to sell it, I'd be willing to build it.
Paint is ready at the hardware store Table is ready at the restaurant Construction is done on a bridge
All kinds of things that we need a one-time notification for.