Your second paragraph seems like ad hominem? Or are you suggesting that homosexuality emerges from lived experience, and therefore I should relate? I am confused.
I don’t really have a dog in the gay fight. The longstanding cultural view in the west going back a very long time was that it is a choice. Some political people today retain that view. The modern view is that it isn’t a choice. Some political people today hold that view. I just look at the sides in a detached game theoretic way and it just seems like the red team has a move they haven’t played.
Is that bad? I do understand not wanting to go there mentally, since it is definitely hard to hold views apart from most of society, even if the view is “things are less clear than what everyone thinks they are”. I think humans generally seem to have some preprocessing that drops view candidates that would put them in that position.
It sounds like you're familiar with being socially ostracized for aspects of your identity that emerged from your lived experiences. I imagine you didn't enjoy that experience, did you?
I wish we could all just treat eachother with civility and basic kindness, even people we disagree with. That may be wishful thinking, but choosing not to aid the weapons manufacturers in culture wars feels both ethical and practical to me.