What happened on the tea app were probably not knowable, observable or refutable for those actually being doxxed or slandered.
That isn’t me saying 4chan is absolutely morally in the clear, but it’s still quite a significant distinction.
It seems like your argument is based on (1) the discussion being slander (assumption); and (2) the idea that you could refute it if it were public (good luck, low credibility, also most men would immediately respond with vulgar name calling and - at least if anonymous - threats).
Men get upset when they are, as a policy, unable to view the (not fact checked) things being said about them in a public internet forum.
I am not sure what problems you've run into purchasing sex toys. The retail outlets that sell them certainly don't seem to care who buys them, so I'm guessing you're upset with some past partner that didn't want them used without discussing it in advance? Just discuss it in advance and realize that sometimes your partner is going to say "no" to your desires. It's a partnership, not a dictatorship. There are going to be limits. As for being bi, again... what are the circumstances? This doesn't seem to be a universal problem. Lots of people are bi. We are largely having a good time.
I'm not complaining about some interpersonal issues, I'm complaining at how society treats men who purchase sex toys writ large. You trying to deny this is happening is misandry and you need to check your privilege stat before you commit a mortal sin against social justice.
1. https://www.dazeddigital.com/artsandculture/article/28948/1/...
2. https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/12/the-male-sex-toy-stigma...
Or about the widespread experience of purportedly accepting female partners getting the "ick" from male bisexuality.
1. https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a2740...
2. https://bi.org/en/articles/bi-men-are-not-considered-attract...
3. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/1i2eoog/women...
4. https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/bisexual-men-dating-wom...
Misandry is a bullshit concept created by the manosphere. The Wikipedia article literally says as much. Women are not systematically oppressing men. Go find any conspiracy theory about who is running the world. None of them are ever women. (George Soros, Elon Musk, etc. etc.) I have lived as both genders and I have to tell you, you do not get much benefit of the doubt as a woman. Look at how you're talking to me now! Do you talk to men like that?
I'm willing to concede your point that society is homophobic. Everyone is awash in propaganda that the only valid relationship is one between a man and a woman, and it hurts if that's not what you feel and it's what other people expect you to feel. People are largely under-educated and make no effort to look beyond the propaganda, keeping themselves in the closet for decades over this sort of thing (hi!). I am guessing from your use of the term "blue-hairs" that you don't identify as "queer" but it's something you should probably try on for size. I bet that in a more queer-friendly community, being bi doesn't give many people "the ick". But among cishet folks? I can definitely see that.
It was only anonymous for the women speaking there, but not for the men they were speaking about, hence the justified outrage, since strangers are gossiping/slandering you in a public online space behind a 2$ entry fee.
Would you also support if men had their own such public "safe spaces" to gossip anonymously about real women with their names? I can assure you it would be shut down immediately.
So then why do we allow double standards? I thought we were supposed to have gender equality?
Because like the earlier comment points out, letting anonymous people trash talk real people and name them is a core feature of 4chan.
Yeah, why do we allow them.
Women: Notoriously prone to gossip.
Men: Notoriously prone to murdering romantic partners (most women who are victims of homicide are killed by a current or former romantic partner).
People on the internet: It's these gossiping women who are the problem.
The problem isn't that the site is anonymous. The problem is I, as a man, have no way to check to see if it contains false or defamatory information about me because you can't sign up as a man.
I have no problem with anonymity. But this site exists to allow spiteful women to break the law.