I'll probably get downvoted for this. When I started dating a woman from Israel, her stories didn't jive with the stories we hear here. So I started digging into it and understood why she said it was such a mess and there was no way anybody outside of Israel could understand what was going on.

I'm not saying this as a form of both-sides-ism, but an acknowledgment that it's a shitshow and may never be untangled least of by US/EU.

It is a complete shitshow, and one can like Israelis and believe that they are mostly good people, while also believing that what is happening to the Palestinians is super, super wrong.

The book My Enemy, My Self by Yoram Binur from just before the first intifada I thought was a pretty penetrating insight.