Re:Youth and what happens when it's gone
by bigstrat2003 on Monday March 03, 2025 @12:39PM
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Well... that woman is de facto the best. One of the great secrets to life is that happiness is found primarily through changing your mindset, not through changing your circumstances. It's easy to say and hard to do, of course. But it is true. You'll be a lot happier if you can focus on the good qualities of whatever woman you find in your life, than if you look at her in terms of "she's just the best that I could do".
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> One of the great secrets to life is that happiness is found primarily through changing your mindset, not through changing your circumstances.
Not at all in relation to dating (rather to something related to age) that was exactly what I needed to read today :)
Re:Youth and what happens when it's gone
by asdfman123 on Monday March 03, 2025 @12:43PM
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I should know by now that complaining on the internet is seen as an invitation for people to give you bad advice, yet I still do it from time to time anyway.
Who you marry is the most important decision of your life and ending up with someone you don't even like that much because she's the best you can do is a terrible idea. Who would want to be the woman in this situation?
The women you meet in online dating are much lower quality than the ones you meet in real life, and a part of you is aware of that. The answer is to meet people in real life.