A decade later, a decade lost

Re:A decade later, a decade lost by switchbak on Saturday February 15, 2025 @11:09AM (#43059556)

I’ve just had a very close and traumatic loss myself. I can assure you that in some cases, a poorly chosen comparison of grief can have the opposite of the intended effect.

It’s a tough one, because the grieving mind isn’t particularly rational. You have to be especially careful of things that would otherwise be completely fine.

Much of it comes down to wanting real empathy -regardless of where their understanding of loss comes from. What isn’t desired is any kind of equivocation or comparison. And that is so dependent on how the message is delivered.

And I’ve lost dogs too, that can be absolutely devastating, so intellectually I get it, but the point still stands.

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Re:A decade later, a decade lost by renewiltord on Saturday February 15, 2025 @01:53PM (#43061100)

Thanks for sharing that. I'd think that the slight lean towards the fact that we're here discussing loss rather than meeting at a funeral makes it different, but I'll vary my view slightly. It's not a comparison I'd ever make because to me pets are pets and animals are not human. So I'll alter my view to not call out a scold on this topic in future in response to your comment.

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